How to Ruin Yourself Through Jealousy
How to Ruin Yourself through Jealousy?
I remember walking into a friends house after a few decades of not seeing each other. We grew up together. We shared the one chocolate bar as we did not have money for two chocolate bars. We shared our best pair of shoes when we had to go out with a date. Then we went our own ways and after all these years, I got invited to visit him. At the time, I was living a mediocre life and working hard to make a living, imagine how I felt when I parked my old rugged car outside his driveway. His house was like a fairy tale. It was luxurious, stylish, clean, spacious and was located in an affluent neighbourhood.
I said to myself, “This is not possible”. We were the same, we did the same things in school, and we did similar jobs. I convinced myself saying, he must be selling drugs. I was so jealous of his wealth and success; I had enough motivation to jump off a cliff. I am sure that this has happened to you before.
“To be jealous is to feel annoyed that the other person has it easy and you have it hard.”
How to be jealous? It is to experience a negative emotion as to why some other person has what you don’t have, be it money, freedom, health or the good looks. To be jealous is to feel annoyed that the other person has it easy and you have it hard. Jealousy is actioned through statements and emotions like, ” See how hard I work, but it is never easy for me. For the other person, it is so easy”,
What is to be Jealous? It is to feel sad, annoyed, angry, disappointed with yourself. To be jealous is to feel that what you are after has been taken by someone else, and there is nothing left for you. It is a similar feeling to having your bother eat the whole pie without leaving your share. To be jealous is to feel let down because you don’t have your share.
“You cause it to yourself by engaging in the competitive action and by not having enough faith and belief that there is plenty available.”
When do you feel jealous? The negative emotion of jealousy is born because you have likely wants, needs, and intentions, and you compare yourself, your situation, event, or circumstance to another person. When you do this comparison, you find out that the other person is in a higher state or a higher level of achievement than you, at this given moment. Ex : “Why didn’t I have rich parents like her.” When you don’t compare yourself, or if your liking or taste is different from the other person, you don’t feel jealous. Ex: You may want a mountain hut instead of a house in Beverly Hills.
Who causes this Jealousy? You cause it to yourself by engaging in the competitive action and by not having enough faith and belief that there is plenty available.
What happens when you are jealous? You communicate lack and shortage. You say that there is not enough and that someone has taken it all. You simply say that there is nothing left for you. And the universe says, so be it.
“Being jealous is an extreme declaration of negativity and lack. When you are jealous you say that it is not good.”
It does not happen in the animal world. When a heard approach a water hole, a single animal does not finish off the water without leaving it for the other animals. It does not happen in the plant world as one tree does not take all the nutrients by leaving the other trees to starve.
Being jealous is an extreme declaration of negativity and lack. When you are jealous you say that it is not good. When you are jealous that someone is driving a nice car, you say that a nice car is not good, so you don’t get one, as it is not good. When someone lives in a nice house you say that it a nice house, but it will take time to clean it. Well, they have the money to clean it but you don’t get a nice house as you are saying that a nice house is not good and it is hard to clean.
If you want wealth you have to bless that man with more wealth. This says that wealth is a good thing. If you want a good body shape, you have to appreciate the one with good body shape and be inspired by it. Then you deserve a good body shape. The same principle applies to health and happiness.
The only methods of beating the negative emotion of jealousy are by,
a) Replacing jealousy with a blessing
b) Believing that there is plenty there for you and me
In my case, until I was able to say, what a great house, you deserve it and I wish you great joy in this house, I was not able to get a good-looking luxury house. Saying was not the only thing. The saying had to be supported with genuine feelings.
Next time you know that you have thoughts of jealousy, you know what should be done. The only time you should be Jealous If you want to spend the rest of life in self-pity, suffering, and lack. Then you can master the art of jealousy.
Why do you not have enough?